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Harigovind S's avatar

This is beautiful. Thanks a ton for writing this.

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ParadoxicallyChristian's avatar

This is so brutally honest and brave

I get that tingling arm thing too but all over my body. For me it's like ants or bees all under the surface of my skin trying to get out. I describe it like my skin is crawling to people, because they have no frame of reference for ... "My insides are trying to burst through to my outsides."

I was molested as a young child. I realized last night that the longest period of time over my entire life between having some kind of sex was between the ages of 6 and 11/12. That under the surface tension has been there for me for my whole life.

I self harm with food, and so it doesn't build up as much as yours seems to. I have to eat to live, so the pressure offloads happen more often. You don't get that option. If I manage my anxiety levels it isn't so bad, but there's still times when I can't stop eating. My body is so full but my brain is still starving.

I'm so sorry this is something you have to bear.

Wires in our brains get crossed and fucked up.

I was thinking about how you feel your cutting feels unmasculine. I'm not sure if this will help reframe - From my perspective...some traditionally masculine traits are that men are supposed to have are fixing things, protect others and push through/ tolerate pain. Many of the things you described play into those things. You hurt yourself to protect others, you have a problem (emotional pain) and a solution that works (cutting) to fix it, and being strong enough to endure the pain is a very guy thing.

I'm so glad you found your husband.

❤️

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